All of a sudden our kids got angry that we didnt wait for two or so years. We are old….We sill talk on phone one a week. Miy precious beautiful wife Connie and I were married for 48 years.

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It is simply your personal need that they are unable to meet. And they have a need to maintain the memory that you are unable to meet. Neither is right or wrong, they are simply different needs that don’t align. I am dating a widower who lives with his 31 year old daughter and grandson who is 3. I met him on a dating sight and we connected right away. It was 2 years after his wife passed and 2 years after my husband passed.

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In addition it might help him to talk to a counselor or visit a grief support group. Or, there are some great articles on this site that you might suggest to him. The one son and wife live 2 roads away, the other in 30 miles away but comes up to work near my bf town, plus wife works close by. These things changed a few months ago. The calls and communication were starting to lessen…by quite a bit. I’ve collected ~10 articles and none of them are perfect and all of them provide an opportunities for us to learn, grow and be true life partners, IF we work them together.

He didn’t even ask me how I was or say a sorry even, he just says life is too short, forget the past, be in the present and move on. I continued to try and support her, financially and emotionally and connect wit the older child, both boys early teens. I know I need to end it but don’t want to call him emotional distress. I may have run him off when I asked him what was his hurry to leave. The counselor sounds like they are trying to take a safe approach. Don’t dive straight in to the first relationship that comes along thing.

I am the flawed, neurotic foreigner who is living and breathing right next to him. And she is the girl from his past on a pedestal that he will always love forever. So after 11 months of long distance, I moved to California for my boyfriend.

I’ve done a lot of grief reading and going through GriefShare for the 3rd time in the last 14 months since losing my wife and have learned that you cant rush through grieving – period. If you deeply loved your wife you CANNOT have dealt with losing your her this soon. One of the big things widows are warned against is starting new romantic relationships too soon. Its very tempting because we have a big empty spot in our life where our spouse used to be. We sooo much want that void filled again!

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I can’t find that article not this was a good one also. We are older and I think we should be more mature than playing games. I’m seeing a widow who lost her husband just over a year ago. She and I have been close friends for over 3 years and we’ve known each other since we were teens. It’s a shame you edit and choose not to post responses of how women truly feel dating a widower.

I dont know if im wrong for feeling this way but I am very confused. I feel like i have to share my husband with a dead person. I want to be supportive still but i dont know how to. I am afraid of how it will affect our marriage and whether i have the strength for those days when he is overwhelmed by grief. I love my husband very much and want to make our relationship work.

Regardless of the reason why someone’s spouse passes away, the marriage or relationship did not end. The living spouse now has to figure out how to live the rest of their life after the person they were in love with has been ripped away from them forever. They can’t wait until things cool down and try to see if things can be worked on or talked out and possible get the person they love back.

But trust that this is a normal part of grieving. When an ex dies, it doesn’t mean that you can’t mourn their death. The history you shared doesn’t go away when they die. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and emotions.

Joan, if you are not comfortable with the relationship then of course you should end the relationship. But to seek a partner who can have space for a loved one who died is not something that everyone finds ‘horrible’. Many people are comfortable having photos of a partners deceased family – be that parents, grandparents, siblings, or a spouse partner – up in the house. Many find it something that strengthens the relationship to get to know the person more through their memories of the person who died.

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